Soulmates: Do They Exist?

Like any group of friends, my friends and I have a group chat. That group chat is our bible of all things going on in our lives, what we're wearing for that hot date that turned out to be a bust, our inside jokes and "what are you guys doing? I miss you" texts. It's truly a blessing in disguise that more than two people can text each other all at the same time. 

Every once in awhile, the group chat becomes serious. Someone broke up with their boyfriend, someone needs advice on how to get a boyfriend, or someone just asked a question that everyone has a different opinion to. Today's serious topic was "do you believe in soul mates?" 

As a hopeless romantic, I do. I automatically said yes in hopes that my Prince Charming would rush through my bedroom door and carry me off to my happily ever after. But after that didn't happen, it got me thinking. Is there such a thing? 

When people fall in love, I think they are beside themselves and want to believe that this is definitely the one. However, they will fall in love multiple times in their future. Who a person dates in high school probably won't be the person that they marry (except for those lucky few that get it right the first time). When you're with someone, you're prone to think long lasting and if you don't see yourself potentially marrying this person, why are you with them? Don't waste your time!!! 

I thought I found my soulmate once. It was the summer before my senior year of high school and he just happened. And then everything happened so quickly. Everything was perfect. I even told his family that I wanted to marry him. Looking back they probably thought I was crazy, oops. And then everything fell apart so quickly - quicker than it came together. And just like that, I fell out of love. It wasn't on purpose, it wasn't out of spite, I just didn't love him as much as I once did. And I thought I was this horrible person and I deserved nothing after we broke up. But a year later, I finally realized that it was okay. People break up and you cannot force yourself to feel something that you just don't. 

But back to soul mates. 

I think they exist. But I also think that maybe not everyone has one - or just that not everyone wants to find theirs. Because let's face it, there will be people that you meet for a reason that the both of you just cannot explain and there will be people that stumble into your life without any hesitation at all and those people - for the length of their stay - will mean the world to you and always will. And you can't explain how they made you feel or what it was about them, but they're just special to you. 

I genuinely feel that people who come into your life out of nowhere are important. They come to teach you a lesson or allow you to step outside your norm to view the world differently. Those people are supposed to change your life. 

And with a soulmate, those feelings happen. But I would assume that it's much more than that. I feel like when you meet that person, you know everything about them and you just know that you have found the one. It has not happened to me yet and I don't see it happening in the near future whatsoever but I do see it happening. It's the most wonderful unexpected gift that a person can receive. And when you are fortunate enough to find that person, don't let them go.